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Morning!

If we are made in His likeness, as the Bible says, then we should be doing what He does in our own realm.  Creating.  It’s different for everyone of course, but somewhere deep down we know without knowing what we should be doing.

It doesn’t matter what it is and we don’t always understand the why.  It’s just important that you do your work.

Here’s how you can identify what you do.  As Oprah said, once she understood her work/her mission, “It’s as easy as breathing.”   She went on to discuss how you get lost in it and that time has no purpose here.  You could do it for hours and you don’t even realize that so much time has passed.  What do you do that makes you feel this way?

You have a mission, a purpose, and no matter how insignificant it may seem, it matters.  You may create beauty in the garden, food in the kitchen, words that teach or soothe, but there is always more to it than you know.  It doesn’t matter if you do it on a small or a grand scale, it doesn’t matter if you become famous or rich, what matters is that you do what YOU came to do.

A gifted hair-stylist I know creates beauty in the unique styles she fashions, but in touching the crown of one’s head (the Crown Chakra) she also touches the mind, heart and soul.  Somehow those who reap the benefit of her work always walk away feeling better about themselves or their lives.  They walk a little taller; they feel smarter, informed or inspired like they’ve had a healing of sorts.  Understand that this is not a job for her; it’s the calling of a gift that comes from within.  She is moved to do this and the result speaks for itself.

The amazing thing about acting on your gifts is that it not only benefits others, it benefits you as well.  The universe is an efficient system of brilliant architecture where everything is useful.  A great example of this is that trees and plants give off oxygen which benefits us and we give off carbon dioxide which benefits them.

Where does your gift of creation lie?  Don’t deprive the world or yourself of the benefit of what you came to do.

As Nike says, “Just Do It!”

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Morning!

Didn’t realize how busy I’ve been in the last few months. Totally consumed with my financial situation, work (thank God), events, and what’s on the horizon, sometimes living in the past wondering what I “woulda” “coulda” “shoulda” done.

This morning has been the most wonderful of all though. Why? Because I am taking the time to experience the joy of being. Not looking to the future or the past, not going over lists of what I should be doing.

Just breathing-noticing-experiencing-enjoying.

Try it with me.  I don’t care where you are or whether or not it’s a place you want/don’t want to be.  It doesn’t matter.

• Notice without any judgment, your breath
• Breathe in, breathe out
• Relax
• See-no really see what’s in front of you, around you
• Empty your mind and just observe

If you’ve never done this before, try to spend at least five minutes or more here.  Anytime you feel your mind wandering to judgment or what you need to be doing, just take it gently back to observing your breath.

Here’s what I received:

• I am excited to be alive and well and living on the planet
• The smell of summer
• I felt the warm breeze
• Surrounded by a sense of love
• The quiet of morning
• The potential of a new day

It’s a luxury that everyone should take the time to experience, because really, this moment is everything you truly own.

Enjoy!

 

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Night of the Big Moon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Morning!

Almost 41 years ago I had my first child, and 27 years ago, I gave birth to my last child. While that may make me amazingly ancient in the eyes of some, I still feel like I have my whole life ahead of me—and I do.  It is certainly a new phase as full of excitement and wonder as any other part of my life.

Many people believe that the world will end in 2012.  When I compare life and the world 40 years ago or 27 years ago with life and the world today, I feel that things are no different.  No better, no worse.

We have always been at odds with presidents and politics.  We had wars and the threat of wars, bizarre events in the world and the environment.  We read the newspaper with the same fear, disgust, anger and conspiracy theories that abound today and there were always those that predicted that the end of the world was near.

I remember receiving such an announcement in our door when I was about 10 years old.  I was inconsolable.  My Mom said, “Oh throw that crap away!”  But I still worried about it for weeks.  We are still here and I suspect we will be for many years to come.

It’s not about how long we have because none of us know on an individual level how long our lives will be.  It’s certainly about the quality of each and every day. So put down the worry about the economy and the future and no matter what your situation, live your life as best you can finding joy in the little things.

• Live with hope and wonder
• Love like there is no tomorrow
• Believe that 90% of your fellow man has good intentions
• Yet always keep common sense and caution at hand
• Celebrate all the little wins in your life
• Greet the rising sun with amazement
• Same with the moon as well
• Take nature walks even if you live in a concrete jungle
• Cook at home and invite family and friends
• Party like it’s 1999–or maybe 2011.

Nature walk with my grandson.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These are the things that make life worth living and every day a  joyful one.  In the end it doesn’t matter how many days you’ve had, but that you found joy and meaning in each one.

Carpe Diem!

 

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Morning!

I have been cleaning house, getting rid of all the extraneous papers cluttering up my office, my home and my life.  I avoided doing this for some time because it just seemed like a tediously unpleasant task.  As I’ve gotten into it though, I realize that it has given me time to take a look at all of the things I’ve done over the years on a personal and professional level.

Every piece of paper, every note, and every photo conjures up memories.  Some great and some not so much, so I try to stick to the role of observer and not allow myself to dwell too much on the emotion of it all.  Luckily, looking at it in its totality helps me to realize that the negative was really only a small part.  

Artists often refer to their “body of work” and as the artist of my life, I am amazed to look around and see the body of work I’ve produced.  Some of it, I can’t believe I’ve done because when I was in the midst of it, I frankly didn’t feel all that comfortable or confident.   I just let my inspired ideas, coupled with my own skill set–no matter how limited those skills may have been–carry me.  I realize now that it was the doing that was the important part, not the perfection or lack thereof.

I also reflected momentarily on how many opportunities I’ve had in front of me that I didn’t take advantage of because I thought I’m not qualified, I might fail, or I might look ridiculous in front of others.  Thankfully, I didn’t allow myself to dwell on that.   I just took it as a strong reminder to continue to take advantage of inspired moments.

How is that working out?  The other day, one of my granddaughters was here watching some Kidz Bop music videos for children.  She was so intent on watching that she wasn’t really engaged in dancing, so I got up and started dancing like I was trying out for Soul Train.   She took one look at me and joined in dancing as intently as I was.  When we were done, her Mom was laughing hard and told me I looked ridiculous.   All I could do was smile. 

My experience in life tells me that if you act on the good things you feel inspired to do and believe you can do them, they’ll give you the most satisfaction.

“Dance like no one is watching, love like you’ll never be hurt, sing like no one is listening, live like it’s heaven on earth.”           ~William Purkey~

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My late great dog, Suede, taking full advantage of someone else's bath.

 

Morning!

Like everyone else in the world today, I’m setting myself up for what will probably be a waste of precious time.  Making promises I may not keep, creating reasons to feel bad–yet again, about myself. 

In spite of the track record of resolutions, I remain optimistic that this will be the time that I follow through and become the great person I dream of being.  That’s the beauty of being human.  We can improve.

I sometimes wonder if a dog or a bug has thoughts of being a better dog or bug.  Probably not, but unlike humans, they have the sense to stay in the moment.  There’s no multitasking for them.  Whether they are catching a breeze, getting something to eat, or seeking shelter from the rain, they remain focused.  It’s as though they realize that life is short so they enjoy, or at least deal with what’s happening right now. 

Truth be told though, I really love the concept of renewal.  At any time, not just on January 1^st, I can decide to be better at anything.  I can shoot for improving my health and my skills, take up a new hobby, or whiten my teeth.  It’s what separates us from other living creatures.  Not only can we improve ourselves, we can take up noble causes to help others in the world to improve as well.

Some people look forward to the New Year with fear in their hearts expecting something ominous to happen.  I look forward to the New Year with the excitement of a child opening a well-wrapped present.    We can’t always choose what we get, but we surely can choose our response.  In fact, our attitude and preparation can even shape the things that happen or don’t. 

My goal is to strengthen the tools I am currently using that I believe will help me to cope throughout the remainder of my life.  Yoga, Tai Chi, meditation and swimming are not only helping me to become physically fit, they also help me to be mentally and spiritually fit as well.  I feel these activities can help me to cope with whatever life throws my way in the future, like illness, loss and any other type of disaster, but they will also help me to fully enjoy the good things that come like celebrations, vacations, my grandchildren or just sunny days.

I feel so very thankful to have made it to this 1^st day of a new year.  I look forward to all that this year brings, the promise of who I can be and what I can do to enhance my experience in it.  I am also glad to be human, but I will also take a lesson from my dog and bugs. 

“This is my life.  It is my one time to be me.  I want to experience every good thing.”  ~Maya Angelou~

Happy New Year Y’all!!!

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Morning!

We all have gifts to bring to the universe.  What many of us don’t realize is how important it is to express these gifts. 

A gift is something that generally comes, as Oprah says, “as easy as breathing.”  It’s not that the gifted don’t work hard to polish or expand those skills, but the essence, the raw talent of it, is already there. 

Here lies the problem.  Because it comes easy, we often don’t value it, so we set it aside like a yard-sale find.   

Writers that don’t write, dancers that don’t dance, singers that don’t sing all deprive the world of the gifts that they don’t express.  Every grain of sand is important to a beach.  

And what about the joy it brings to you? 

What are your gifts?  Express them today!

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Creating Self-Talk That Propels You to Success

 “In the beginning was the word.  And the word was with God.  And the word was God.”  ~The Bible-King James Version.  John 1:1~

               The Bible, The Quran, and The Torah are just words and yet these are words that people have lived by since the beginning of time.  They shape lives and nations.  The world is divided according to these words.

               Words are powerful. They can help, heal, soothe, hurt, wound, and kill with more accuracy than a scalpel or a gun. They can motivate, inspire and propel others to success. They can demean, demoralize, and enslave an entire race or generation. You have the power to create and destroy with your words.

               Think about the words you are you saying to the people closest to you every day?  What are you instilling in their minds?   If the words you say are not good, positive and uplifting, how can you expect good, positive and uplifting things to happen?

               But here’s the most important thing of all:   What are you saying to yourself?  Because if your self-talk is full of limiting and hurtful words, how can you possibly be the best you that you can be?

               I have long corrected my self-talk, or so I thought, but today I realized that there are still whisperings going on: 

• “You can’t do that. “ 
• “You are too old for that.” 
• “You are not strong enough for that.” 

                All of this eventually translates into:  “I can’t.”  You tell yourself things and your mind accepts these things as fact, but these facts are disproven every day. 

                Ernestine Shepherd is 73 years old, according to a story on ABC News.  She runs 80 miles a week and surely looks decades younger.  Somehow she missed the memo on what you can or cannot do when you reach a certain age and thank God she did.  And get this:  She didn’t get started until she was in her fifties!

               There are countless examples, but what I want to get down to is that we need to examine what we are saying to ourselves about anything we’d like to change about ourselves and our lives.  Become conscious of your self-talk and when you catch yourself saying something limiting, no matter how small, try this:

• Write down the negative statement.
• Challenge the “truth” in the statement.
• Turn it into a positive statement.
• Notice the change in your feeling.
• Write the statement on an index card.
• Read it every day until it replaces the negative statement in your mind.
• Take an action toward to make the new statement true.

Here’s an example: 

 “The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.”

1)      Challenge the truth in this statement:

• Maybe the rich are rich and the poor are poor because of what they are doing to stay that way.
• Maybe if I study how rich people got rich, I might get rich too.

2)      Change your words:

“I’m rich and getting richer every day.”

3)      Change your actions:

• I will examine my financial habits and work on improving them.
• I will read about people who are in the financial situation I want to be in and learn how they got there.
• I will improve my skills and abilities that can help me to get there.
• I can change my financial situation any time I choose

4)      Reinforce this change every day!

Body Building Grandma Ernestine Shepherd Bench Presses, Runs Marathons At 73

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/mess-ernestine-shepherd-body-building-grandma-benches-150/story?id=10480184

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Morning!

     We all have our own fear triggers.  For me, the one that stands out most in my mind is fear of flying.

     It would begin with the booking of the flight.  Each day leading up to the trip, the nervousness would always be present.   By the day of the flight, I was inconsolable.  To look at me, you wouldn’t know how I was feeling, but in my mind a war was being raged.  I had to mentally wrestle myself to the ground to keep from bolting from the airport or at the very least cancelling my trip.

     After boarding the flight, I would literally feel sick, my insides churning with acid.  Something that began as an idea in my mind became physically real creating nausea, diarrhea and headaches.   The resulting illness would sometimes continue for days after I landed because now I am focused on the flight home.   

     One day I realized how ridiculous this entire scene was.   I asked myself why I didn’t have that reaction when I was walking on the street or riding in a car where the potential for danger was much greater.  I knew then that this level of anxiety was neither normal nor rational and it certainly wasn’t helping.  I also realized that it was going to be the death of me if I didn’t get it under control.

     Fear kills dreams too.  It alters your decisions and convinces you that you shouldn’t or can’t do something.  It lowers your belief in yourself.  An acronym for fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.  This is such an appropriate definition because unless you are being chased or in some kind of danger, there is no need for fear. 

     Recognize that your objections to doing many things in your life may be fear talking.  Take an intelligent approach and write out the benefits as well as the risks.  Focus on those benefits and the greatest possible outcomes.   

     For me, seeing my family whenever I want or traveling to tropical islands is a great motivator.  If I feel anxious on the plane, I envision what I am going to be doing when I get to my destination like enjoying my family, or the beauty and warmth of the island.

     Add a few breathing techniques to your coping skills.  I often use this when flying.  I also bring my Ipod along because music soothes me and I watch movies when they are available.

     Do not beat yourself up because you are afraid to do something.  Treat yourself like a good friend with patient understanding and loving care.  Try many different solutions until you find something that works.  You and your goal are well worth the effort because achieving this goal could mean a richer more meaningful life.

     I still have some level of fear during the process of flying, but because I take care of myself throughout the process, the fear no longer controls me.

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
— Frank Herbert, Dune – Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear

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Coffee & Contemplation

 

Morning!

I grab a cup of coffee every morning like most of the world.   However, the difference between me and most of the world is that this is less of a mindless act and more of an event.  I call it–oddly enough–The Coffee Hour.

My morning coffee has always been special to me and my view of it as an event sets me apart.  Yes, I do love coffee and probably need a 12-step program, but my coffee hour is so much more than that.  Throughout most of my adult life no matter how early I needed to get up for work, for children, or for an appointment,  I always got up in time to have that special moment of coffee and deep thought.  This practice has served me well, propelling me forward in many areas of my life including writing.

The problem in later years though, has been getting caught up in the wireless fray–checking email, Facebook, iGoogle and, before you know it, 52 other sites because one click leads to another.  And let’s not talk about the phone.

Multitasking and Distraction

There indeed lies the problem—multitasking to the point of distraction and less focus on deep thought.  Deep thought is truly needed right now (and I’m not talking about the comedic Jack Handy variety here).

The X Factor

No matter how positive one tries to be you can’t help but feel the global unrest in the air on every level including financially, politically, and environmentally.  The earth is clearly weighing in showing symptoms of stress with unprecedented changes in its terrain and behavior.

I believe it’s a turning point for us all and we need to get prepared for more of the X factor.  We have taken so much for granted thinking that the way we have been living is guaranteed forever.  It began with the wake-up call of 9/11 and most recently the economic downturn in housing and jobs—or the lack thereof.  Most of us have been caught out there without plan B every time.  We have to know by now that this is not a drill and we need to be prepared through Z and beyond.

Spinning My Wheels

 In the past few months I have been pushing myself to excel in many areas and I have to give myself credit.  I have made progress–working out, eating well, taking writing courses, brainstorming ideas for new revenue streams, job-hunting strategies–but it’s still not enough.  There’s lots of wheel spinning and sweating going on, but not enough traction in any one area to make a significant change or create a real breakthrough.

Mastermind

If ever there was a moment when I needed to step back, focus and listen to my spiritual advisors, namely our creator and the universe, I would say the time is now.

For the next 21 days, I’ll be the one in my PJ’s with my coffee in one hand, pen and paper in the other, long before the sun has arrived.  With clarity as my intention and meditation my sole agenda, I will be listening and letting the pen move me whenever the message is there.

R.S.V.P.

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Enjoy this moment–it’s the only one you really have.

UPDATE:  We are well past 21 days now–6 months and counting to be precise.  I am weighing in to let you know that this practice is still in full effect.  It has served me well.  There are no earth-shattering results to report, but it’s more like a steady course on a ship, navagating storms and swells making progress all the while because my vision of where I want my life to go is clearer and stronger than ever.  I suspect that this coming year will be one of  amazing change.  Stay tuned!

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Morning!

I am preparing myself for change because it’s inevitable. Spring is coming, the economy and job market are still in a slump. Even the planet seems to be behaving in a tumultuous way with so many earthquakes and other strange phenomena.

Like most of you, I’ve got a lot on my plate and a lot at stake. If we watch the news every day or listen to our family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or anyone other than ourselves, we can become immobilized with fear. We start telling ourselves that trying is hopeless and paint a picture of doom. “There are no jobs out there!” “You can’t sell your house in this economy!” You had better not start a business now!” And yet, if you take a closer look, people are still getting jobs, selling their homes, buying new homes, starting businesses and doing amazing things.

I am choosing to close my ears to negativity, to do everything in my power to make sure that the things I am in control of are done, and taking intelligent risks because I believe in my heart that no matter what, I am going to be okay!

Here are three things that I am doing that you can try too:

1- Be grateful. Look around and recognize that you have so much to be thankful for. If you are having trouble figuring that out look at people who are so much less fortunate than you. When basic needs like clean water are a daily challenge, then you really have something to be concerned about.

2-Ask yourself, “What am I in control of?” and then write a list of things you can do like getting fit, caring for yourself, sharpening your skills, and get to work on them right now.

3-Create order and peace in the environment around you—your room, your home, your workspace. I guarantee you will feel better immediately.

So even if your own personal “Henny Penny” is telling you the sky is falling, put on your helmet, put a smile on your face and get moving.